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Parenting - Your Job As A Role
Model
Your Job as a Role Model
by: Anthony Kane, MD
A certain educator was once asked at what point should
a parent begin to prepare for child raising.
"How old are you?" the educator inquired.
"Twenty-three."
"You should begin twenty-three years ago."
What is the message? The single most important thing a
parent can do to educate a child is to provide the child
with a good role model. A parent has to work a whole lifetime
becoming the type of person that he wants his child to become.
The most important people in the world in the child's eyes
are his parents. They are his first and most important teachers.
The behavior of a child's parents leaves a permanent impression
in the child's subconscious mind. Why is this so? The reason
is that the most reliable source of priorities and values
in a child's eyes is his parents. Children have an innate
trust in their parents. They feel that everything their
parents say and do is the true and proper way to behave.
We all wish our children would do what we say and not what
we do. However, this is not how the mind of a child works.
The intellect of a child is undeveloped. As a result, children
function an emotional level, absorbing more from what they
see and hear around them than from what they are taught.
What is the take home message? The main thing for you to
realize is that you have far more influence on your child
than you probably realize. Your child is going to pattern
himself after you. That is how nature set it up. Your job
as a parent is to be the best role model that you can be.
True, it is hard, but that is the way it is.
The following is a story I heard recently that brings out
the extent to which your child learns from your actions.
A certain kindergarten teacher once warned a group of parents
to be careful how they behave in front of their children.
"By the way your children play in school," she
said. "I know which of you treat each other respectfully.
I know which of you use foul language at home. I know everything
about how you behave in your home by the way your child
plays, talks, and behaves."
Remember, you might think that everything that goes on
in your home behind closed doors is hidden from the world,
but it is not. Your child sees everything. Your child is
going to take your behavior and broadcast it to the world.
Make sure that what he is transmitting is something that
you want the world to see.
Anthony Kane, MD
ADD ADHD Advances
http://addadhdadvances.com
About The Author
Anthony Kane, MD is a physician, an international lecturer,
and director of special education. He is the author of a
book, numerous articles, and a number of online programs
dealing with ADHD (addadhdadvances.com/childyoulove.html)
treatment, ODD, parenting issues (addadhdadvances.com/betterbehavior.html),
and education. You may visit his website at http://addadhdadvances.com.
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