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Nurturing your husband when you work from home

Posted on July 2, 2007 | 8 comments | Filed in Uncategorized 
 

When you start a home based business, no one tells you that it’s much like having a baby. It takes about 9 months for that business to “gestate”. When it’s first born, that new business sometimes needs “fed” in the wee hours of the morning and night. And it can take it’s toll on your health and your marriage.

Even when your business grows older, gets more established and more profitable, it still takes steady effort and focus to keep it running. And it’s really easy to let that needy business take time from the relationships you have with your husband and kids if you let it.

In fact, there’s somewhat of a “sexy” appeal to feeling needed by your business. The intellectual stimulation of thinking of that next promotion, where to find customers, and how to grow profits feels good compared to the conversation you might have with your 2 year old.

I guess what I am saying is that I let the thrill of my business feed me in a way that I stopped investing in my marriage. And this spring it really took it’s toll on us. We are back on the right track now. But I really want to remind you to keep things in this order God first, family second, business third.

Now I am making date time with my husband. I am trying to do thoughtful little things to show I love him (cards, making his favorite cookies etc). And we are trying to take time together to connect everyday – even if it’s just sitting with a cup of coffee or a glass of wine and talking.

Having a successful business is worth nothing if you don’t have a happy family to share it with.

That’s part also of why I got really quiet on my blog. I knew it was time to unplug from business and replug in to family. Now that things are out of crisis mode, I look forward to reconnecting to you – my friends.

Here’s wishing you the very best for you, your family, and your business.

God Bless.

Kristie T

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8 Responses to “Nurturing your husband when you work from home”

  1. Jennifer Knox on July 2nd, 2007 8:22 pm

    Kristie,

    You’ve given some very good advice! I’m a newlywed, so we’re still adjusting to this whole married thing, and I’ve noticed that I have to be careful to devote more time to my husband and our marriage. It’s not uncommon for me to have my laptop with us on the couch while we watch TV or just hang out, and I know that’s something I need to cut back on. Luckliy he’s very understanding, but I know there have been moments when he’s been unhappy that the computer follows us all the time! He even jokes, “You’re in love with your computer…”. Usually I know that when the jokes start, it means he’s wishing I would close it and spend some one-on-one time with him.

    So thanks for the reminder! I needed it!

  2. Sharon McMillan on July 3rd, 2007 10:05 am

    Kristie,

    This is like divine intervention. I just started my business in May (I joined MM) and from that date until now I have been consumed with this business (plus I work full time and have two young teens). My husband is so patient…so I was shocked this weekend when he looked into our home office and with a sigh of exasperation sadly said that he couldn’t believe I was on the computer again. It was a holiday weekend for us and we usually do so much together at this time…except this year I wasn’t really all there.

    This has been on my mind since Sunday and reading your post today reminds me that I most definitely have to shake up my priorities and get them straight again as they are very much aligned to yours.

    Thanks for the reminder.

    Sharon

  3. Regina on July 3rd, 2007 6:43 pm

    Awesome post Kristie!! You know I click with the God first, husband, kids, etc. I’m glad to see even the busiest and successful entrepreneurs like you, share what so many Moms need to hear.

    Best wishes for continued success! Now go plan that romantic weekend :)

  4. Work at Home Moms Talk Radio » Blog Archive » Only 24 Hours: How Do You Spend Your Time? on July 3rd, 2007 7:46 pm

    [...] Kristie of WebMomz shared something pretty personal on her blog recently and I have to say that I admire her for it.  It’s not easy to admit to yourself that you’ve made business a higher priority than your husband, let along admit it to the world around you in such a public way.  [...]

  5. Administrator on July 6th, 2007 6:22 am

    Regina,

    I am traveling to Salt Lake City Utah for a 3 day event – and I am bringing my hubby with. We are leaving the kids at home and making a trip of it. We have been married 13 years. We never had a honeymoon (couldn’t afford it). Then at 5 years we went on a trip to the Florida Keys. We were fighting the whole time. So I am excited to finally have a trip where we can get away – no kids – and have fun!

  6. Laurie Hayes on August 6th, 2007 1:15 pm

    Thanks for sharing your story Kristie.

    One story I shared in the past with my clients and readers was about how I was such a workaholic during one of my earlier home businesses, that one day I came out of my home office to find my hubby gone — he had left me for someone new who actually made time for him.

    It was a hard lesson, but one that taught me two very important things:

    1. Family and relationships must be nurtured — always.
    2. Success in business comes from working smarter, not harder.

    Thank you for sharing your insights and experience for the benefit of others.

    Laurie Hayes
    http://www.thehbbsource.com

  7. Herb on January 17th, 2008 4:26 pm

    Hi Kristie,

    I just found your blog and wanted to tell you it is very good. Your advice goes for men as well as women. it takes work to make it work.

    Keep up the great work

    Herb

  8. Tina on January 18th, 2008 4:55 am

    I totally agree with what’s been said about working from home. So many families miss out on quality time together because of work commitments.
    So when you have the opportunity of working from home and earning good money, then grab it with both hands and live your life the way you want to.

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